Nigel Pizzini

Understanding tantrums

The strength of emotion that erupts from an upset preschooler can be overwhelming, both for your child and for you. Often that emotion is accompanied by tricky behaviour. Lashing out (with limbs and words) is common, and a distressed parent can often find it difficult to distinguish between the feelings the child is experiencing and …

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Teen dating

Even though your teen is on the way to adulthood, you still want to know they’re making good choices about who they hang out with and, even more so, the people they date. Tread carefully – we can’t make these choices for them and if they feel judged or controlled they will just keep us …

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The consequence of imposing consequences

By Genevieve Simperingham, Positive Parenting Coach.First published in The Natural Parent Magazine (New Zealand and Australia) “Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent than the one derived from fear of punishment.”  ~  Gandhi When requests, limits and boundaries are asserted by a parent or teacher with the threat of enforced …

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Five tips to help your child survive cyberbullying

Cyberbullying has been in the news a lot recently, and new legislation coming through will finally give the legal system the means to act. Any digital communication that causes harm or offense will be liable for legal action. Most New Zealand kids have access to the internet every day, often through schools and mobile devices. …

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The heart of the discipline

Doing discipline well is a common parenting challenge, and it’s not surprising when you consider that every child, and every situation, are so different. Ideally we want the result of discipline to be: a lesson learned, or at least some steps in the right direction everyone still feels good about themselves, and each other, after …

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Teens and money

By the time your teenager is ready to leave home, you’ll want to know that they’re a confident budgeter and good with money. Rather than paying for all their small purchases individually, try providing an allowance for the week or month which they must use to cover their own expenses. There’s no better way for them …

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Making Clear Requests

Making effective requests of others or ourselves requires clarity and a connection to the feelings and needs that are alive in you and the specific context in which they arose. Brainstorming requests also requires a sense of flexibility or openness to a variety of ways in which your needs could be met. I notice that …

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